DEEP THOUGHTS - No One Owes Anything


No One Owes Anything 

“The only thing a man owes another is to objectively show him his options. The choice and results are his to bear” 
– Odigwe Jilams
This saying is true, but doesn’t mirror present life’s circumstances. Everybody knows in their hearts that no one not even the universe itself owes them anything, rather they are adept at playing the victim and persuasively blaming others for their faults and failures.
It is absurd to think that the reason for someone’s stagnancy in life is caused by another’s inactivity in their life. This is like attributing divine attributes to a mere mortal. What is so specific about a particular individual that warrants him being looked upon as a god and not you?
As the quote suggests, the best a man can do for his fellow man is to outline his options and the path he must follow. His choices and the subsequent results are his alone to bear. The truth is that if you always have this idea that a man/woman owes you something, then you are mostly selfish, self-centered and stingy.
They forget that those who they pin their hopes on, also have their own hurdles to overcome. How then will they solve yours when they are not through solving theirs? That is illogical.
Therefore friends, it's time to stop believing and acting like the universe or any man is indebted to you. If for nothing, it is you who owes the universe; to be productive and leave it better than you met it. Imagine a man being successful and his friend is not, you may not know how,  but it creates a psychological dilemma on whether he should help you especially if you are nonchalant or whether he should leave you.
This life may be hard, but it’s not immune to accomplishment. If possible, create a picture in your mind, see life as a human being, whose heart was broken and the ones who enjoyed it are those who had patience, persistence and perseverance and pampered it with optimism, while those who suffer are those who give up, suffers it’s neglect, anxiety and treat it with pessimism.
When you do that, you stop thinking of what this world should do for us and start thinking of how this world can benefit from your existence.
Being indebted makes you become a slave and it blurs your perception about right or wrong leaving you in perpetual servitude.

Jilams Odigwe is an enthusiastic writer who borders the line between a realist and optimist. His love for art is fluid, which makes Bon vivant of some sort...

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